What Are You Getting from Putting Yourself Last?
Released On Sep 29, 2026
Season 3, Episode 26
Why do I keep putting myself last, people-pleasing, over-giving, and taking care of everyone else before myself? If you’ve struggled with putting yourself first, setting boundaries, saying no without guilt, asking for help, or prioritizing your own needs, this episode of Holistic Mama Speaks explores a question you may have never considered.
What are you getting from putting yourself last?
You may not consciously choose to over-give or exhaust yourself. But sometimes an old pattern continues because it’s meeting a deeper need.
Maybe being needed makes you feel valuable. Maybe saying yes helps you avoid guilt or disappointing someone. Maybe doing everything yourself gives you a sense of control. Or maybe being “the strong one” has become part of your identity.
In this short episode, Carrie Marie Vaughn explores the connection between people-pleasing, self-worth, boundaries, identity, over-giving, receiving support, and the hidden reasons women keep putting themselves last.
You’ll also get one simple question to help you recognize what’s underneath the pattern so you can begin making different choices.
Because getting unstuck isn’t only about changing what you do. Sometimes you have to understand why the old behavior has been so hard to let go of.
Want to go deeper? Carrie Marie’s Stuck Point Quiz and Stuck Point Scan help uncover what’s keeping you stuck, and inside the Rich Girl Network women’s community, you’ll work on the habits, beliefs, boundaries, self-talk, worth, receiving, and identity that help you become the woman you want to be.
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Feeling stuck but not sure why? Start here:
Take the free Stuck Point Quiz and find out exactly what might be keeping you stuck:
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If you’re ready to go deeper and uncover what may be keeping you stuck, you can explore the Stuck Point Scan, a simple session designed to help identify and release the biggest block holding you back:
https://stuckpointscan.com
If you’re looking for ongoing support, tools, and guidance to help you get unstuck and stay in momentum, you can get started inside the Unstickify Your Life Academy:
https://holisticmamaspeaks.com/academy
And if you prefer a simple, step-by-step approach you can follow at your own pace, check out the Unstickify Your Life 30-Day Empowerment Workbook:
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About your host
Carrie Marie Vaughn, Podcaster, Speaker, Author, Coach, & Holistic Wellness Professional
Carrie Marie Vaughn is a transformational Unstickify Your Life Coach, author, speaker, and host of the Holistic Mama Speaks podcast.
As a wife, mom of three, and lifelong nurturer & learner, Carrie Marie knows what it feels like to be stretched thin, overwhelmed, and stuck in the cycle of doing everything for everyone else… while losing yourself in the process.
After her own journey through burnout, illness, and rediscovering her self-worth, she became passionate about helping other women break free from what’s holding them back and step into lives filled with greater clarity, confidence, energy, and purpose.
Through her coaching, programs, and her signature Stuck Point Quiz & Stuck Point Scan, Carrie Marie helps women quickly identify and release the mental, emotional, and energetic blocks that keep them feeling stuck… so they can move forward with momentum and feel like themselves again.
She is the author of Mom Mantras and Unstickify Your Life, and the founder of the Unstickify Your Life Method & Building Upward, LLC.
