Why Do I Feel Guilty Every Time I Do Something for Myself?
Released On Sep 08, 2026
Season 3, Episode 23
Why do I feel guilty every time I do something for myself? If you feel guilty taking time for yourself, spending money on yourself, resting, saying no, prioritizing your needs, or doing something simply because YOU enjoy it, this episode of Holistic Mama Speaks is for you.
So many women have become accustomed to taking care of everyone else that self-care can actually feel selfish.
You finally take the afternoon off…and think about everything you should be doing.
You spend money on yourself…and immediately question whether you should have.
You say no to something…and feel guilty.
You prioritize your health, happiness, dreams, or goals…and wonder whether you’re letting someone else down.
But where does that guilt actually come from?
In this episode, Carrie Marie explores why women can feel guilty prioritizing themselves and how the invisible rules we’ve accumulated about being a “good” mom, wife, daughter, friend, employee, or caregiver can influence the choices we make.
You’ll discover:
✨ Why doing something for yourself and being selfish are NOT the same thing
✨ The hidden “shoulds” that may be creating guilt
✨ One powerful question to uncover the invisible rules you’re living by
✨ Why you don’t need to “earn” rest, joy, or time for yourself
✨ How to stop asking whether you deserve something
✨ Why small acts of choosing yourself can help change old patterns
✨ What your choices may be modeling for your daughters and other women
✨ 3 simple shifts to help you prioritize yourself without letting guilt make the decision
And you’ll leave with a simple challenge you can try today to start changing your relationship with self-care, guilt, and putting yourself first.
Because taking care of yourself doesn’t mean you’ve stopped caring about everyone else.
It means you’ve finally included yourself among the people you’re responsible for caring about.
🎧 Listen to the full episode and then ask yourself:
What would change in my life if taking care of myself stopped being something I felt guilty about?
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About your host
Carrie Marie Vaughn, Podcaster, Speaker, Author, Coach, & Holistic Wellness Professional
Carrie Marie Vaughn is a transformational Unstickify Your Life Coach, author, speaker, and host of the Holistic Mama Speaks podcast.
As a wife, mom of three, and lifelong nurturer & learner, Carrie Marie knows what it feels like to be stretched thin, overwhelmed, and stuck in the cycle of doing everything for everyone else… while losing yourself in the process.
After her own journey through burnout, illness, and rediscovering her self-worth, she became passionate about helping other women break free from what’s holding them back and step into lives filled with greater clarity, confidence, energy, and purpose.
Through her coaching, programs, and her signature Stuck Point Quiz & Stuck Point Scan, Carrie Marie helps women quickly identify and release the mental, emotional, and energetic blocks that keep them feeling stuck… so they can move forward with momentum and feel like themselves again.
She is the author of Mom Mantras and Unstickify Your Life, and the founder of the Unstickify Your Life Method & Building Upward, LLC.
